November 2010
How do I stop one of my best friends copying me?
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01/11/2010 : One of my closest and trusted friends seems to copy me. She mimics by outfits and has bought many similar or the same items of clothing as me. She copies my hairstyles, she reads the same magazines and watches the same tv too. When I first met her, her style was the same as her last friend, but it has changed radically since we have been friends. It really frustrates me when I see her look the same as me, especially as my dream is to be a fashion designer. How do I make her find her own identity without speaking to her about it?
want to stay i night in abberden, looking for very cheap accomodation, pls
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02/11/2010 : hi help
I hate my boyfriends dogs - its making me want to split up with him........ help!
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02/11/2010 : I have been going out with a man for about 4 months, and he has now moved in with me. The reason why he moved in, was because he was spending more or less every day/night at my house, and as he was in the process of selling the farm he owned with his ex - instead of him getting a place on his own (when he would be with me most night of the week) it seemed to make more sense to just pay one lot of rent and live together at my house. I wasnt too sure on the idea at first, as i hadnt even thought that far ahead, but it seemed to make sense, and at the ages of 33 and 35, we are not kids, so decided to give it a go.
.. He has 2 large farm dogs which are used to living outside and roaming around 60 acres of fields working with sheep. I told him that if he lived at my house - (a rented house) then i am not allowed any pets - but also - I did not want 2 large dogs at my home anyway - as they are farm dogs, not house dogs - and they are vicioius, and snap and have to wear a muzzel. I have always disliked dogs, but becuase I liked this guy so much - i decided that I would try and put up with the dogs being around.
The dogs go everywhere with him. To work 6 days a week and in the car - everywhere he goes. When we go out in the car for a day out for example - they are in the back of the car in 2 big metal cages (they need to be seperated as they fight and bite each other).... when he takes them for a walk - one has a muzzle on as it bites and it goes for other dogs and tries to attack. It jumps up at children - and it scares me - also its very embarrasing if you are having a walk with a mad dog. The smell of the dogs is absolutley disgusting, and when i am in the car with him and the dogs - it makes me feel physically sick going on long journeys.
I have now told him, that i can no longer go out in the car with him and his dogs - as i dont like them - and they are making me upset and the smell makes me feel sick. He puts his dogs first, and I am not asking him to choose between me or his dogs - but i can no longer can tolerate the dogs - and now that he has moved in, I am wishing he hadnt - as I dont want these dogs in my life. We cant go off and do anything - as they are always with him. They sleep at his work premises over night, which is 10 mins from where we live, but they are with us all day on a sunday (our day off).
I realise now that I cant have the things i want out of life whilst he has these 2 dogs.... i want a family of my own one day - but no way would i want a baby around 2 vicious dogs - or travelling in the same car. I would like to go for weekends away without the dogs - but this is not possible. Should I just break up with this guy or what on earth can I do? I have been single for 7 years, and dated in that time some really lame guys. He is the first nice guy i have met in 7 years and he has all the qualities i was looking for in a person - kind, caring, loving, thoughtful but his dogs have now put me off him and I am thinking of finishing with him - as I dont want these dogs in my life.
I have spoken to my friends - but they say - you will work it out ...... i dont see how - as a dog is for life, and they are not going anywhere. The relationship has been very intense, as we have spent a lot of time together, and done lots of nice things together.
Should I get a divorce after only a month or marriage?
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03/11/2010 : My husband and I just recently got married in October, but even before the wedding I was getting VERY cold feet. I began to hang out more with my friends and not care about planning or the details of my day. I had met my new sister in law's brother that lives down the street and we have been hanging out in secret about 3 times a week while my husband is at work. Before the wedding, I was questioning big issues, like the fact that he cheated on me twice with my best friend. His family is rude and has never really truly liked me, and that maybe I wasn't ready for such a big step in my life.
I have been with my husband since high school and we just hit our 6th year. I'm worried that we only got married because it was the next logical thing to do. Ever since we got our own place we have played house, but I'm in school and am concerned that maybe I'm still too immature to be a wife. I love him very much and don't want to hurt him, but I'm not sure if I'm still "IN" love with him. The guy up the street also has expressed his feelings for me and I feel them back strongly.
I would love to be with him too. We share common interests (unlike me and my husband) and have been through similar life situations concerning trust. He does little romantic things when we hang out and I can't get him out of my head. We also kissed a few months before the wedding. He's not selfish at all. I asked him if I should get married before the wedding and he told me yes, because he just wants me happy, but I sense strong feelings between us. Was my cold feet a way to tell me to stop? Or am I just in puppy love and need to snap out of something that might never happen?
How to trigger a post-pubic growth spurt?
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04/11/2010 : Hey there, I'm 19 years old, 1,80 meters tall and I weigh 68 kilos. I am rather comfortable with my height, but I would not mind gaining another two or three inches... Is there some kind of diet or exercise that can help me achieve this? I've heard of post-pubic growth spurts and I wonder if one could occur to me.
how to keep my relation going on with my dearest friend like this?
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11/11/2010 : i felt some feelings for my best friend... but for 4-5 years i've been convinced by him that he has always loved some other girl. due to frustration about how to deal with my feelings i told him to get out of my life. beoming emotional..he suddenly conveyed that the girl he has always loved is actually me..he lied about that girl and never told me because he didn't want to hurt/shock me...but now he wants nothing more from me..he wants just friendship...but i don't know how to deal with this... i can't forget the truth and i can't ignore my feelings that developed for him.
..at first i could ignore those feelings by telling myself that he loves someone else..but after knowing everything & moreover when he wants me just as a friend in spite of loving me....i don't know how to keep this 'friendship' going....please help...i'm too stressed out
Rough path with my boyfriend..?
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14/11/2010 : i'm 16, and me and my boyfriend went out once, he made all these promises to me, then broke them.. once i was left upset he came running back.. said he was sorry, told me he loved me etc, and because i believe people deserve second chances i gave him one. I like him more than anyone ever before, and for the awhile things were going great.. till he starts to talk to too many other girls in ways i don't like, and goes of with other girls when we're out with friends :S yet i feel that i can't do that becaus he'll be annoyed.
We started talking less and less and becase i'm so scared to loose him, i didn't start an argument, instead i talked things through with him.. turns out he always thinks i'm annoyed and fed up with him, and i think the same about him with me / It's so confusing, because when we're together we're amazing..get on soo well, and we're so happy, but being apart longer than like a two days and we get all on edge and off with eachother.. :/ I don't want to end this, so please don't say i should because if you want something you have to fight for it, right? But i just don't like he way he acts sometimes.
. my friend says he treats me like dirt / but i can't see it because i care too much. Help?
My best friend who is a girl who is girl won't talk to me anymore, how do I find out what she may be hiding to not be talking to me anymore?
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21/11/2010 : So my best friend who is a girl, just stopped talking me out of the blue. I don't know why. She used to like like me, but i figured she moved on and I'm not sure if she's just trying to get over me, or she may have heard something that may have not like me. We used to be real good friends up until a couple days back. Now she won't even acknowledge me at all, and I don't know what to do to the situation.
Money....?
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23/11/2010 : Me and my sister ha a bet and I won £40 she got allanngry and told my parents so they took £80 from my savings which o had been saving from last September which was nerly £400. I'm really annoyed becUse I trusted her. What cann i do?
What should i when my parents wont let me see my 19 year old boyfriend and i dont want to wait two years just to see him? What should i do when my parents are to controlling? What should i do when my parents only care about themselfs?
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25/11/2010 : Me and my boyfriend have beeen goin out for over 7 months and my parents just started to hate him because they think he is controlling just cause my grades are much better and im not in school. They wrote him a letter say im not supposed to see him our talk to him or his famaily, i dont agree with it at all. They dont care how i feel about this at all
how do i know if my husband is lying and cheating on me?
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25/11/2010 : i was on the phone with my husband when he mentioned that he is having a stomach pain and he said he had the pain since monday.i asked him from the scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the worst how much pain do you have? he said 10,so i told him to call their office and asked if they can send him home.but he said he can wait until friday night which is day off.i really don't understand why he refused to call their office if he is really in pain since monday?
how do i know i still love my boyfriend after all the rainbows and butterflies go away?
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28/11/2010 : he still makes me happy and i love being with him. but we arent close anymore...? its like youy know how in the begining its like a honeymoon stage wel its overr. i guess you can say there wer a few prooblems we had cause well when we first started dateing i kissed another guy and didnt tell him till 4 months later and i lied about it and said he kissed me. but we all kno it didnt go down like that, but he flipped his shit and almost broke up with me but he didn't. but i was feeling horabley guilty.
and then i started to question wether or not i love him but i knoe i did. but i kept thinking that he didnt look at me the same after that and he didnt love me anymore and i thought he was eventually going to leave me. so ofcourse the walls came up. and he started to stop talking to me. we used to be so close and he used to be my best friend and boyfriend and everything was perfect and everything that i ever wanted, but he changed and stopped talking to be as much he would be mean and when we did talk we would fight but after i saidd something he started to relize that he was beimg an ass.
im starting to have doubts, do you think that means ive stopped loving him?
What should I do?
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29/11/2010 : Ok so my dads a hypocrite. If I do one thing wring he's on my case or even if I don't do something I get the blame I'm an only child. So the other day my dad says turn off the light when you go upstairs so when I go upstairs I turn off the light and my mum obviously turns it on again to go upstairs and I get the blame and a two hour lecture on electricty, light bulbs, enviroment, money everything. So him being a hypocrite does everythnig he tells me not to. For example I went to get some food 1 hr away from dinner he says don't eat anything dinner soon so 20 mins later go downstairs and he's munching on everything he could find so I ask him about it and his awnser was because I can.
Also I'm not paticually bright and I'm only getting d's and e's and he has said that he will take me to new York city if I get c's and above but no matter the amount of revision I do he always sais it is not good enough and he then gives me lectures about it. Also he buys me lots of stuff I don't want and also all I have ever wanted is a dig and a trip to new York city instead I have a huge tv and every concole going which I don't want. Also every time I say like make a sound while moving around the house he takes my phone my Internet and all my other stuff away it's ridiculas and I don't want it anymore.
What should I do ?
How to make my parents make peace?
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30/11/2010 : Hi there, I've had this problem at home for quite some time now: my parents have grown sick and tired of each other after 20 years of marriage, they are constantly annoyed with each other, even though they rarely fight - technically. They can get upset about really small things, for example mum always gets pissed when dad comes late for dinner, but there are also bigger issues, like dad spending their shared money in some obscure ways. I just don't understand how two people who used to love each other can now treat their respective partner like that.
The worst part of it all is, they both have this I'm-the-saint-the-rest-of-you-are-the-sinners attitude, they simply won't see any wrong with themselves, always with the others. That is why I'm not even trying to talk to them, since they'll just shake off all my arguments like they always do. And honestly, I'd hardly give a damn if they killed themselves, but what about my younger brother and sister, don't they deserve to live in a place where there is no constant bickering instead of love? Does anyone have any idea how I could possibly make those two hard-heads put up white flags?