April 2012
How to reject a friend
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01/04/2012 : Hello, this is a little strange but i'm hoping you can give me some advice. My male friend has apparently fancied me for quite a while, yet i don't feel the same way. It's a common problem i'm sure but i just don't know how to reject him. You see, not only is he my friend but i live 2 doors down from him so any awkwardness would be intensified. He's sweet and kind, but i'm only 15, never had a boyfriend and aren't exactly looking for one now. I say apparently as my other friends have always made comments about how good we'd be together, and i sort of believe he's acting on that notion.
He's becoming a bit clingy but i just can't hurt him, everyone says to tell the truth yet it seems so brutal and I've admittedly ignored the problem for ages, relying on the fact he won't ask me out- as he hasn't, but i know he likes me as he told my other friends. signed awkwardly hesitant x
What should I do? Is she getting rid of me?
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02/04/2012 : Last week, she sent me a very ugly photo of me, then I asked another friend for her ugly photo too and sent it to her and laughed. She is very open-minded and doesn't care so much when she know someone isn’t teasing her with bad intention, as she knows we are just playing. But this time she got mad for a few days. She is my very best friend, I have never develop so much with someone before her, and I care so much about this relationship. And in a certain level, I am sure she felt almost the same with me.
We always talked about future, and how will she be my maid of honor when I get married, where will we travel with others when we grow up and she has expressed to me before that, ‘I’m not always 100% frank to you, but if you ask anything, it’s yes, then I’ll tell you yes, if it’s no, and I’ll tell you no without hesitation, you are already like a part of my family.”. I bet this is not just a ordinary relationship. The first few days that she wasn't speaking to me, I texted her “Sorry ‘ everyday, and on the fourth day, finally she replied me, and said if I could get someone to return her money back, then she’ll forgive me.
I didn't cry for all those days before when she wasn't speaking to me though it hurt. But when I saw this message, I can’t struggle anymore with my tears. It hurts so much, that it seemed like our relationship is built based on conditions and material things, especially with her, who I have developed so much with, and I always thought we are going to grow up together and we’ll be very best friend with others no matter what. She did talked to me again when she got her money back, but I’m the one who took control instead of her speaking to me first.
Then it was a weekend, we didn't see each other for 2 days, so I couldn't be certain if she’s really okay with me. Then the Monday came, we were like normal in the old days, laughing and sharing jokes together, everything’s seemed right. I knew I have to take thing slow after a fight with one another, so when everything seemed to go on the right track, I bring up something personal like our future together. I asked her going to the harry potter theme park together in the future. She used to felt so exciting about going to spend time and travel with me, but today she said, ‘uh.
. hmm.. No.. Whatever.’ And I don't make judgment only on one thing, then at lunch, I ran into the guy I have a crush on, many of my close friend knew about it, instead of her, as we fight the other week early and that I just paid attention on the guy. So when she casually asked me, what’s that about, I told her I had a crush on a guy, and I request to go downstairs and told her I would point out who he was, but she was like, so insisted of me and said, ‘It’s fine, I don't wanna know.
’ It really hurts. Those are not the only things that I suspect she didn't want me anymore. The close friends I have mentioned was invited by her to a trip on riding bicycle. But she didn't invite me, I stayed bold and asked if I could go and she was like, ‘the road is really hard for bicycle beginner, better not come.’ (Though really I didn't know how to ride a two-cycle bicycle).. That’s my story, and what I feel is that she wants to get rid of me, I don't know why she wants that.
When I think back I consider that she was just finding a reason to get mad at me, in order to not have that close relationship we had before the fight, and seemed like she was resisting me. I consider that she may not want to be an enemy to me, but that she just didn't want the friendship we used to have. What should I do? I’m really messed up. I care this friendship so much, I don't wanna lose her, or maybe I’m not willing to go further with her anymore, as I learnt much deeper about her after she used a condition for a mean to forgive me.
I’m lost. Please help.
my son has left home and gone to live with his dad,he is 16 ,and now hes demanding all the stuff out of his bedroom which i kitted out ,what can i do
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03/04/2012 : ive never had any help in the 16 years of his dad and think if hes going to encourage him to stay there he should kit his room out
my parents are overprotected about me. .
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04/04/2012 : i am 20 years old girl and have a younger brother. my parents are ultra overprotected about me. since primary school they sent me in all girls school, which means no boys were around till i finished my high school. then i joined college which thankfully was a co-ed. but still my parents didn't let me be friends with any of them. But then i met with so many nice and helping guys who were worth being friends but my parents didn't let me to be friends with any of them without any reason its not that they are bad.
they are also from a good family with morals. its kind of frustrating that around my life every female friend are allowed to hangout chat and befriends with guys other than me. not only this i am 20 years old still my father don't let me drive. Till now he drive me wherever i want to go and because of this i don't get to go out of my house for hangouts or just for having fun. my parents don't let me go out after 6pm. My friends are all annoyed because of this. i never go out of my room till its because of study or some work.
plus you will not be surprised to hear that they don't even let me wear short dresses or sleeve less tops. i hate my life. while my friends enjoy their weekends going out wherever they want i stay inside my room doing nothing. i feel like i am in prison. without any mistake. from so many years i tried to talk to them with every ways and means possible on earth to convince them but its of no use. they never understand!!! please help me i am really dying everyday. please .....
Why did he change his mind about going prom with me?
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04/04/2012 : Well theres this guy, who I went out with not long ago and he ended it with me after a few days and his friend said he thinks its because he is shy and doesn't know how to be a proper boyfriend.. It was then a few days ago he texted me and we were talking normally util he texted asking if I still liked him..? I said yes and he said 'a little bit'.. whats does 'a little bit' mean? you either do or you don't?? He then asked if I still wanted to go out with him and I said I wasn't sure, he didn't reply so I texted asking him if he still wanted to go to prom with me (even after the break up) and he put 'I'm not sure' I don't know if the fact I said i didn't know if i wanted to go out with him still, even though I like him is linked with his response of backing out to prom, but when I asked my friend what it ment, she said it was him trying to say he didn't want to go with me? So now I'm very confused.
. Please Help, Thank you
Is my husband gay?
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06/04/2012 : Over the last few months i have found pictures of men on the pc. I didnt think anything of it at 1st i just d them, but then the clothes on the men started getting less & less & now they are naked pictures! I really dont know what to think is my husband gay or not? PLEASE HELP ME.
Am I still in love with my girlfriend?
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09/04/2012 : I'm 17 years old and me and my girlfriend have been going out for the past 19 months and she is my first real girlfriend and love. A few months ago I had broken up with her because I had started to want to see other people but this breakup only lasted 5 days after I realized how much I love her and miss her. Right before I broke up with her I had 2 girls that I was interested in . Now here I am and I just got done having the love interest role in my schools play. She first freaked out because I had to kiss another girl but then she was annoyed because I had put the play before her and was barely talking to her.
This i somewhat did on purpose and enjoyed being away from her because I was finally happy with all of the people In the play and I even started to like one of the girls in the play who I went to the movies with her and a bunch of friends and we were practically almost kinda holding hands. When the play was over and me and my girlfriend hung out I missed her and began to feel that love again but by the end of the night I felt like it was only physical. We don't have much in common and conversations don't really go far.
Then there's this other girl I've been talking to who I've only met once and she seems really cool and we seem to have much in common. Am I still in love with my girlfriend despite my behavior? Should I mention about us seeing other people which is going to happen in a few months anyway when we go to college? Are these girls just crushes? I really need lots and any kind of advice and help with this. I'm really confused with the entire situation.
Am i being bullied??
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10/04/2012 : i recently refused to change my holidays to suit another employee now she is hell bent on giving me grief in and out of work. She has split my family up by telling my partner confidentially things i told her and has also tried to cause trouble with an ex-collegue of ours... im at my wits end please help
What should i do about the feelings for my ex?
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11/04/2012 : Me and my ex had a 7 month relationship. We had such an amazing relationship, we had so much in common, we were best friends as well as boyfriend and girlfriend. We were each others first love and we lost our virginity together. This sadly ended January 2011 because he said he felt differently and that we had grown apart so he ended it. I was absolutely devastated and heart broken for months, but I felt that I had finally got into a place were I could move on and be happy but he always seemed to have a hold on me even though we never really spoke after we broke up.
But the other day we were both at a party and we were getting on so well and he was reminding my of all the things he did and shared and he also asked me "So why did we even break up?" and towards the end of the night we ended up kissing and we slept next to each other and hugged all night. Now I cant stop thinking about him and I think old feelings have come back. I text him the following day to ask if things were awkward and he was all smiley over text and said everything was fine. Now I feel like I wanna talk to him again but I dont know whether i should, what do i do????
What should I do about my freind with severe paranoia?
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14/04/2012 : I have a friend, one of my best freinds who I have personally diagnosed with severe paranoia, she is almost sixteen, she can't relax, is too trusting, has a fear of being stabbed and is always asking me for advise on how to relax but I have tried all I can think of to help her but it is no use she is paranoid of everything to be able to relax or even get stronger, she is an overly weak person and I don't know what to do
What should I do about this guy!? (2 things)
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17/04/2012 : Basically, I met this guy quite a long time ago and I was quite ignorant with him at first, (not intentionally), he saw me in town and shouted me over knowing who I was and I didn't have a clue who he was so I appologised and then had to quickly go, so it seemed quite rude. Which he'd seen me before on different occasions and always stared at me, he even did after that. But never came over since then.. Anyway, quite a long time later I noticed he was upset on Facebook, so I messaged him asking if he's okay and what's wrong and he told me everything and was lovely, so I tried cheering him up and helping and he seemed really appreciative and told me how nice I was.
We started speaking from there quite a bit, then me and a friend were stuck one night with no-where to stay (doesn't matter why), and he offered for us to come to a party, me and him hardly spoke all night until we got kicked put and had to stay at his mates where he basically cuddled me all night and kept kissing me. We saw eachother after this for a couple of weeks out with friends and he'd be really shy and hardly speak to me.. It was so awkward and online he'd seem to go shy too. Then there was another party, and I was drunk so my confidence went up and once again we were together all night, cuddling and he was kissing me again.
This time he was telling me I'm perfect and how he doesn't understand why people fuck me about (he's been fucked about in the past too) then I told myself I wouldn't but I was extremely drunk and we ended up having sex.. Which I regret as my injection ran out before and I was unaware, but I don't think he ejaculated, I can't remember! But pre-cum has a small chance of making me pregnant and I've been feeling funny lately, like I threw up the other morning and other signs so I'm concerned of that, if anyone knows pre-cum chances please let me know.
. Anyway, that morning when I sobered up, he was the same with me complimenting me, still cuddling/kissing me putting his arm around me everywhere. Then online it went back to how awkward it was before!? Then he went on holiday so I've been clueless what to do and my friend did me a favour and asked what's happening between us for me but he doesn't know I know their conversation, she asked because she seen pictures of him kissing some other girl all night (before me and him had sex but after the night we stayed at his friends) which upset me a little but he's single he can do as he pleases.
So she asked him and he said he doesn't know as he likes me but his previous relationship went terribly. So she told him I'm not like that and to speak to me about it and he said he will. Now I'm nervous about him speaking to me about it, but I do need to know but I don't know what to say to him? I do want to be with him I just have no idea what to say or do as its so awkward for me, especially with him. We're staying out next week too with mates and I was considering telling him then but I don't know what he feels? Do any of you understand what's going on in his mind? I undrstand he may not be over his ex or he might think I'm gonna hurt him but I need help with this.
.:/ Also if I'm pregnant how the hell do I tell him!? Thats so awkward.. I'd only tell him if I definitely am as there's little chance but still...
Childhood friend doesn't want to have a close friendship anymore
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17/04/2012 : Me and my childhood friend had a very close friendship until we were 22 years old. She was very much like me we were like sisters soul mates. But when she was about 18 she had plastic surgery in her nose she became very beautiful and very popular with the boys and she gradually changed, she became selfish and vain. She wasn't the same person anymore. We gradually distance ourselves but we always ended meeting up, mainly when things weren't going well in her life. She disappointed me a few times with her selfish attitude and the last time I decided to distance myself from her completely as she had upset me a few times and felt very low every time she did.
We went different ways until recently when I decided to contact her through FB. I was very excited because I thought things will be different after a few years have passed and I was hoping she had became a different person with stronger feelings. When I contacted the first time she was kind of friendly and interested, but she wouldn't tell me much about herself just the basics. I poured my life out, send pictures of my family but she never reciprocated. I asked her if I could have her phone number so I could ring her rather than e-mailing and she said she didn't feel our relationship was that deep for her to exchange phone numbers.
It broke my heart because despite all the up and downs we have lived many experiences together we were very close. So I couldn't understand why she rejected me like that. Why do I feel that strong about her and she doesn't. All my friends they contact old friends with a great response from them and why is it different with me? We are in different situations I am married with two kids, she is married with no kids. I always try to find an explanation but it's very fustrating because I can't find one.
Most of us have feelings why hasn't she got any??
Does he like me?
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20/04/2012 : Theres this guy in my class and we went out not long ago, but he ended it with me after 3days :/ I still like hime and I was talking to his friend and accidently said it outloud that I did, luckily he had his headphones in and I thought he hadn't heard.. Later that day he sent me a message saying 'So you still like me' stating that he had heard the whole thing! Anyway I said I did, and now he has been showing signs that he might like me too? He looks at me alot, and smiles and if ever someone makes a joke he will laugh and look at me? He sometimes seperates himself from his friends and stands near me, but he never talks? (I thought he might be shy) His friends are being nice to me, and in one lesson he kept getting up and walking past me,and slid his hand against my back? this last point was before he overheard the conversation with the friend of his.
I thought maybe he might like me? and I got my friend to watch him occasionally too, so it wasn't in my head that he did and she says he might.. But he hasn't told me.. However maybe he is just teasing me, because he knows I like him?? Any ideas? Thank you:)
Does he, or doesn't he want to go to prom with me?
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22/04/2012 : There is this guy, I asked him if he liked me and he said he did and he knows I like him too.. Its our last year of high school and after I will never see him again, we are going to prom together because he asked me, but whenever I ask him about it or try to talk to him he never answers? and one time he told me he didn't know if he wanted to go with me and when my friend tried to confront him (i didn't asked her too) with me standing there, he kind of smiled, but went quiet and still said I don't know.
. is he mucking me around or is he shy and nervous about the whole thing maybe? Please help
How do I cope with my boyfriends attention seeking sister?
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23/04/2012 : My partners sister always has to be the center of attention she takes over everything & is held on a pedestal by her mother. My partner & I had a baby 8 months ago & now she has gone as far as to get herself pregnant. My partner & her own father know she got herself pregnant as they know well what she's like, as they have both said she had no interest in being in a relationship or having kids till I had our baby & has always had to be the center of attention,her nose was out of joint when my baby was born & the focus was on the baby & not her.
Prior to her even knowing I was pregnant she had said how she would not be interested in having kids & how travelling & a hectic social life were more what she wanted. When she found out she was pregnant we were all told she was in a state of shock & she herself told us how she could not get her head around it & was making it out she was not happy yet she announced it to the world 5 minutes after she did her drama piece & knew she had our attention & was all about buying buggies & clothes - bear in mind she was only 6 wks pregnant at this stage - Now everything is about her & her pregnancy, she just started an amazing new job & i'm delighted for her but every little thing that she does or any little success she has she feels the need to text me about it, we're not even close & I have no problem with someone being genuine & sharing their joy however I feel she loves to rub my nose in it & my partner feels the same.
It seems whatever we do she has to go one better & it's staring to get me down as i'm now a stay at home mum & have put my career on hold for the moment. My partner cannot confront her about her behaviour as it would cause huge problems for all the family.
What should i do about being bullied?
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24/04/2012 : Hey im in high school and there's this rumor going around that im an alcoholic i think it got started when my ex overheard me talking to my friends about drinking I was talking about a health assignment and he took it out of context and sprend it around now everyone in my english class is asking me if im an alcholic and teases me about it and i cant take it anymore i keep on telling them its not of there business but they wont leave me alone what should i do?
I'm in love with a guy who is 12 years my elder and I only know him through Facebook!
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25/04/2012 : I met a guy on Facebook when i was 14. He is a very private person but he added me because my profile interested him. We got talking and then before i knew it, I had fallen for him. He's a lawyer and is usually, very busy with his work so our correspondence hasn't been very frequent. But we share a lot of interests, we are passionate about the same things. I'm 18 now and still head over heels for him. Last year i did something very stupid- I got into his email account(how is not important), found his phone number and called him up.
Since then we have texted each other a few times, sometimes for 10 hours straight. He hasn't done anything to lead me on and treats me, at best, as a friend. I don't know what to do! I keep comparing every guy to him and realize that he is the best. Help, please!
13 year old girl with imaginary friends-is there something wrong?
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29/04/2012 : I am a thirteen year old girl, and I still have three imaginary friends. Two of them I know are unreal, my 'sister' Elle and 'best friend' Simon. The third, I believe is god's way of talking to me. I talk to my friends when I need help, especially the third, who is a lion. I feel he is the voice of god because one day, I told myself I wasn't going to apologize to my brother, because he never apologized back. My 'friend' told me to apologize and promised everything would be alright. I did, and for the first time in years, my brother apologized to me of his own accord.
Sometimes I feel I can almost touch my friend, but with Simon and Elle, I know they aren't real. Is something wrong with me? People tell me i have a vivid imagination. I have a fair amount of friends in school, but I'm not 'popular' and I am terrified of crowds and small spaces. Please help me out!
Am i bulimic?
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30/04/2012 : Okay im always stressed about my weight. And at school i always feel like everyone is judging me on my weight. And that drives me crazy. I have a rough life at home i have two disabled brothers, an alcoholic for a father and a mother whoes sole purpose in life is to make me miserable. One day it just got so overwhelming for me and i binged on a bunch of junk. I hated myself for eating that much and i wanted to get rid of it so i started purging in Febuary now its april and ive purged probably 4 times a week i try to stop but when i feel like i ate 2 much i just purge am i bulimic?
Why is my 2 year suddenly scared of my boyfriend?
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30/04/2012 : I have a 2 year old daughter and my boyfriend has a 4 year old daughter. We have been together for a year now. We moved in together after 4 months of dating and everything was perfect,y little girl loves him and his little girl loves me. Recently for the past month my daughter has been acting strange around my boyfriend she is scared to go around him and if I hug or kiss him she starts crying, she tells me he is mean and it hurts his feelings. When I was alone with her I asked her questions I asked if she was scared of him she said yes I asked why and she said because so I asked if he hit her she said yes I asked where she said her butt I asked if he did anywhere else she said no.
I'm really concerned I looked her over and she doesn't have any bruises, so is this a phase or do you think abuse is happening? I'd like to think its not because he has never hit me or his daughter or my daughter before, so maybe is it just he whipped her and now she is scared or is it abuse? Please help.
I am so confused and hope someone cant help me as im at the end of teather and feel like im about to expload
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30/04/2012 : I am a married guy in my late 30's and my dad in law is in his late 50's, i have known him for many years even before i met his daughter, my problem is that over the last several years orso weve somehow become extreamly close on a personal level example being. There is a massive amount of physical contact hand touching,ive scratched and massaged his back n shoulders many a time and also he has let me see him half and completley naked,he has even let me feel his penis through his pants more times than i can recall to the point where he is erect sometimes he will move and other times he just sits there and acctually move so i can feel it even more? I have developed very strong feelings for him over the years to the point where he is always on my mind day or night im so distressed ii feel like my head will expload any advice would b a great help thanks