June 2010
I went out with a boy, who i really cared about, he meant the world to me, and i ended it for some odd reason? and now i have to spend most days with him, and the feelings are flooding back?
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05/06/2010 : Basically i went out with a boy last summer, we had been friends for months before, pretty close. we went out for about two months, and i just suddenly started pushing him away for no reason, i had a few problems at home and with a troubled illness and everything, and instead of letting him be there for me, I treated him badly. I just broke it off, for no apparent reason, and i didnt realise at the time how much i missed him until now, about half a year on, and we hadn't spoken until the other night, we tried to make amends, and he blamed himself, and i blamed myself.
I know that if we start to become friends all the old feelings will come back, but this time i think i should refuse to act on them? as he deserves so much better than someone like me, who broke his heart, he told me he was in love with me, and he told several other people, and i feel ashamned to have been such a horrible and bitchy person to him. Basically it's a huge regret, and i'm scared that even if he can forgive me, and we can move on and restart that i'll hurt him again :'(?
A struggling relationship with lots of love hidden behind school and constant nagging back and fourth. I would do anything to fix this position I am in.One problem: long distance relationship for another month or two
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06/06/2010 : Well for a little over a year now I have been dating what I have considered the love of my life. My girlfriend and I met on Facebook, which was very bizarre, but shortly after we had started talking we just really liked each other very much and our relationship exploded about as fast as it could in an amazing direction I have never even accomplished before. A week after we started talking I had the opportunity to visit her and I remember our first real passionate kiss was in her barn while we were going to visit her horse.
After that we went inside and watched a movie and talked and snuggled and kissed until I had to leave shortly after that. The next time I was able to visit her, she was on vacation with her mom in Jacksonville, and I drove 2 hours from crystal river (where i was at the time) to see her for a few hours. We saw a movie and hanged out with her friends, it was about 12 at night before I decided to drive back and it tore me up so bad that I didn't want to leave. Our conversations would last until 4 in the morning and I had energy to wake up two hours after that and go 80 miles offshore fishing and still talk the same way with her when I got back.
My college semester started back up again and I was taking 15 hours and it was harder to visit her, but I tried my hardest and I came a couple of times to visit her. I would try to see her every month (she was 17 and I was 18 and living 300 miles away) and it went well for the first four months. Soon after that she was finally allowed to come see me for thanksgiving. I live in Pensacola, Florida and she lived in Ocala, Florida. Once she arrived in Pensacola she spent a week with me and then we traveled to Dallas, Texas where there is a Family reunion every year.
She very much enjoyed my family and the time we had to spend with each other. Unfortunately, she became very ill and sick during the trip and I took care of her for the last portion of it. I remember her thanking me so much for going to the store and getting so much medicine to make her feel better. We drove back to Pensacola and it was time for her to leave back for Ocala. Then... I started noticing some problems in our relationship, I think school, stress, and distance started picking at us... It started by us saying "I love you", "I miss you", and "come here and snuggle with me", etc.
.. and began to just pick at us to where we didn't have anything better to say. Christmas came and I was unable to see her (and we both really badly wanted too)... But I was able to visit her for new years, but after 4 or 5 days I had to return to get ready for the spring semester that was going to kick my butt! I promised her I would visit, but I became so busy between my first job (working for my dad), and school, and house work that was requested of me by my dad. She visited me once out of those four months of school and I visited her for a week after school ended, and was forced too leave and go back to start summer school.
Our arguments are over the most minuscule things when we look back on them and they are always the same thing over and over again. Either She or I will say something that was meant to be a joke and it turns out to hurt their feelings and it begins a argument where we both give each other the cold shoulder and feel like we need space for a bit. Never have we yelled or anything like that, we have always been calm with each other, but we seem to be having these arguments more and more and no matter what we try, say, or do to stop them.
. they keep occurring. It has almost been a year and a month now and she is getting ready to move out and go to college. We plan on either living in my dads house, or moving out and getting a place. Financially, living with my dad is the better option, but for my education... I am beginning to think that moving out and getting away from the house would be a better option. In a house of my father, stepmom, sister and my sisters boyfriend, and my stepmoms three kids... We are running to the conclusion that it will be a bad place to study and get work done.
Especially because the children are all younger and require help and I should be devoting that time to my studies. I am a Pre-Medical student and currently have a little low of a GPA for medical school. I have doubted myself for the entire year whether I could do it or not and I am beginning to realize that moving out is the only way possible to bring my grades to where they should be. My schedule is School-Help my dad with chores and dinner (we feed an army every night and clean up its mess...) and then study late.
.. Sometimes if i am lucky I can play video games to relax, but I feel like I am not myself anymore because I cannot do what I would like to do. This summer I have the decision of staying strong with her and being devoted to my love, while keeping my dream to become a doctor and moving out with her. Becoming completely swamped and busy while living with my dad and living with Laura in his house while balancing school, or giving up on patching a relationship that I have tried to patch, but failed. I want to say that my girlfriend is a great person, and I am too.
.. and that there is no reason we shouldn't be getting along just fine together still. She says I am grumpy when I am studying and take adderral for my ADD, but I feel like I am being nice and don't know how our arguments started to begin with. She mentions my tone of voice changes and it makes her feel like she is not worthy of me or insignificant... I do not with that upon her and do not know how to control it, especially long distance where voice is everything, except for skype video chatting where we can at least see each other.
I feel that I cant control this tone of voice and that it might be something she needs to be able to counter and prevent and work with me on it. Whether it is to figure out how to distract my mind on what its thinking about or make me laugh, I dont know, but we keep on saying that our relationship is not how it used to be and that we dont laugh and talk like we used too. We try to talk about things after we argue, but we both get right back where we used to be and are fighting again about the same things-only I don't know how many more times this will happen before one of us can't do it anymore and I am scared of losing what I have grown to love so much.
Since summer classes started I have had many nightmares of her cheating on me and leaving me and it doesn't do anything to help my situation except make me more scared and worried. If quitting my job will grant me more time to spend with her when shes not busy I might even do that as an option... I work about 6-7 hours a week and its during dinner time usually... Thanks, Andrew
is it good if i leave my 3 minor children and go abroad to work there for two years? what will be the effects for them if lesve them 2years after the death of their father?
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07/06/2010 : im a widow for 2 years my kids were very young 5 years old is my youngest 13 years old my eldest ..i have no savings for their future
I had sex with dads friend, what should I do?
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12/06/2010 : I am 16 years old and my dad is 38. 3 months ago he bought his friend round for dinner, the moment i saw him i was instantly attracted. His friend is good looking and only 35 years old. A month ago he came round when my dad was out. I had just came out of the shower and I could see him eyeing me up. I sat next to him and kissed him. He responded and we ended up having amazing sex. It was my first time. Ever since then he's been avoiding me and says that i'm too young. I know I shouldn't like him but i really do.
What should i do?
How i can say "i does not love her"?
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16/06/2010 : My girlfriend proposed me but i does not love her .How can i say I does not love her that she does not forgot me.
Why can't I stop sleeping with handsome housemates?
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17/06/2010 : Two months ago I went to a party with my friends. We all got really drunk and I stupidly ended up going back to this guys house. When we got there his male housemate was there. I started to show off in front of them both and flirt with them. We went upstairs and I had sex with both of them seperately whist the other one watched. When I woke up and remembered what I had done I was embarassed but a week later I saw them at a party and I couldn't resist sleeping with them both again. Ever since then I frequently meet up with them for sex.
I want to stop meeting up with them but it's like i'm addicted! I feel awful after it happens but I keep going back to them. Why can't I stay away from them?
My boyfreind of 2 yrs has broken up with me, and a guy we both knew got in touch and told me its because he is gay - they used to get together
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21/06/2010 : I went to school with my ex (I call him my ex he never fully commited to me) and we were really close friends, then when we got older things became more and we started seeing eachother. For a year I thought it was just because he wanted to be a 'lad' that he wouldn't let us be a couple so put it down to commitment issues. However another year past and I tried to move on but every time he was there as we have a lot of mutual friends. He wouldn't let me move on and would say he loved me and wanted to be with me etc.
And I would buy this time and time again. However recently a guy that we both went to school with got in touch (this is completely random as it has been years since I or my ex had seen/spoken to him) He asked the usual questions and when I said I was seeing my ex but he was being a bit of a twat and wouldnt commit, he said this could be because he is confused/gay I was in shock I knew that this guy was now out and had a boyfriend but the thought of my ex being gay had never crossed my mind. Then he said that he used to give BJ's to my ex for about 4 years at the end of school.
I pushed it to the back of my mind and continued the sherade with my ex. Then recently he ended it saying he cant commit and its not fair on me. He has only ever kissed 2 other girls when we have been together - I have slept with other people to try and get over him and he knows this but does not seem to care. Am I fighting a losing battle here is he gay or is he just confused and can I help him or do I just get out while I can?! Help!!!
Should I tell my boyfriend about drunken night?
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22/06/2010 : I am 25 and have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is great except for when we have sex. When we went round to a his friends house I got very drunk and my boyfriend encouraged me to have a foursome with him, his friend and his friends wife. I was so drunk that I went along with it. My boyfriend and his friend blindfold me and the wife and have sex with us. However later when my boyfriend was asleep the wife started to touch me and when I tried to push her off her husband held me down and then forced me to have sex with him.
During it he hit me and called me a whore and slut. I know I deserved it I should never have got that drunk in the first place. But should I tell my boyfriend what happened?
Should we stay together?
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23/06/2010 : I love my boyfriend, however we have been through a lot. It is his first relatioship whereas I have had several serious relationships where I have lived with my partner. The start of our relationship was like no other I have had, intense, perfect and we were madly in love. The sex was amazing... however now I don't like it when he tries to have sex with me. Does this mean I no longer love him, because I feel that I do. I dont want to lose him but this is killing our relationship. He is understanding of me, but doesnt understand that I am unhappy with my lack of sexual apetite.
We curently live together, and if we break up, he will move to his homw counrty - so it is unlikely I will see him again.
How do I know if I am in love with him??
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23/06/2010 : I am married with three children, but I have been friends with a man for 25 years. I have always liked him, and always really thought of him as my best friend, we know each other so well. He has recently got divorced and we have been really close for the last year, talking about all sorts of things... when we were young I had a real crush on him, now those feelings have come back. Do I just feel sorry / responsible for him, or do I love him? Have I always loved him? How do I know? I have a good marriage, and my children are growing up - but is it time to find out for sure? And if I don't will I be missing out on my one true love? Sorry for so many questions.
.. any advice very gratefully received
Cheating husband, what should I do?
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24/06/2010 : Before marriage : I was a divorcee. I got married at the age of 20 and my first marriage lasted 10 years and I have a son from that marriage. Then I was single for 3 years before meeting my now husband. My husband was also a divorcee whose marriage lasted 2 years and after that he was living alone for 6 years. I and my husband met in Feb 2009 through a matriminial website. We liked eachother and also became intimate. He was ready to commit but I was uncomfortable since he had not asked his parents about me and nor had I met them.
When we talked about this, he told me that his parents dont want him to marry someone with a child. He said that his outlook is different and he is not going to marry according to their choice. He said he was keeping them informed. Later when he talked to them they were furious. They were totally against our marriage. he told me that we can try to convince them. I said that this is a kind of arranged marriage and I dont think I need to convince anyone. He should've thought about it earlier and still if he wants to back off, he can.
Later his parents came around but I was confused since I saw him going back on his promise. I thought that this is not a sign of strong character. Anyway, since I was also attached to him and I thought that atleast he always told me the truth, I agreed. We got married in July last year. Once married, we were happy with eachother. I concieved in August, but we lost the baby because of missed abortion. I had to take a break from my job and eventually also lost my job. We had thought that we would try again after 3-4 months.
In the meantime his parents visited and I was not able to get along with them. Though he did not take sides, he stood by me. All throughout I had noticed that there is something suspicious about the his relationship with one of his female friends. He talked about other friends and I also met them but not this woman, for a long time after our marriage. I'll call her A. When I met her, her behaviour was also a bit suspicious. He had told me that his ex-wife also had problems with their friendship.
Later I was sure that he was hiding things. I asked him many times but he would say that she is senior and there is nothing that I should worry about. So I had to find out the truth on my own. It was ugly. They had a relationship since more than a decade and They were meeting eachother even after our marriage. Once they went out for dinner together and he told me that he is with a client. Again I confronted him and wanted to know the truth, he did not come clean. I was very hurt but since he seemed committed to the marriage I decided to give him a chance.
I went to A's house and talked to her in presence of her husband. I told her not to meet my husband for the sake of our marriage. And I told the same thing to my husband. This was in March 2010 end. On 1st May, we went to a party and she was there. She came and talked to my husband when I was out of the room. when I came back, he told me that she has invited us for coffee. Later she came herself and my husband asked her for her convenient time. So their intention was clear. Later I found out that she had also visited his in his office on 30th April, a day before the party.
This time I did not want to trust him. He told me all about their relationship and I continued to live with him....but I was not happy. Now after more than a month I realize that I cannot forgive him. I cannot love him again. I was very committed to the marriage and also lost my health and job for giving him a child, but I was cheated. Moreover, this is not an affair that happened in the course of our marriage. It was before I came into the picture, so it is like getting married again without separation.
And I also feel that he cheated his ex-wife. He married her because his parents told him to, but was in this relationship all through. And obviously he is not honest. Dear Friends, What is your opinion about the whole thing? What do you suggest? Thankyou!
should i risk looking like a loser and walk alone to the mall down the road?
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24/06/2010 : im staying with my mom in kansas city and she works the night shift so a lot of the time im at her apartment alone. ive been really bored and im assuming if i went somewhere id have a lot more fun. but if i walk to the mall or something i dont want to look like a loser since ill be all alone. should i go and try something new, or not risk it and figure something else out?