September 2010
Workplace bullying or not?
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01/09/2010 : The culture and boss at my work are extremely, extremely difficult to suss out, so I'm not sure if I am bullied — but I know I am very depressed when I am there! Does any of the following mean I am bullied at work? 1) Better work given to other team members, while I'm given mindless busy work. When I brought this up on a one-on-one meeting, I was told it was because I am relatively new (I was already working in the company for about 3 months) 2) Information are given to me on a 'need to know' basis and/or unclear.
I feel like I was being made to feel like a moron for asking questions, or taking a while to complete the tasks. 3) Stand-offish and aloof demeanour from colleagues. When I raised this with my boss, I was told that it's all in my head. It's made me feel as though my input/opinions do not matter. 4) Sarcastic comments from the boss which are really hard to address in a professional manner. Mainly because it's the boss and everyone are too afraid to rock the boat. If there are basis here on bullying, any advice on how to handle it?
how shud i overcome my shyness on speaking with a boy whom i am in luv with? but he does not no it
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04/09/2010 : i am a 13 year old girl. i am in luv with a boy. but he does not no it. we no each other but v hav not talked so much. yesterday i found him chatting with a few girls. this has worked up my jealousy n i think its time that i talked with him. i dont mean talking about the luv but , u no, just talking!
What do you do if you think you love two people at once?
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05/09/2010 : I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now. I love being with him, he's an amazing person, although sometimes I wish we were closer. For about as long as I've been dating my boyfriend there's been this other guy in my life who's a really great friend, but there's always been a little more to it than that. There's always been this passionate connection between us. We've never done anything physically other than cuddle occasionally which I already feel guilty about. Lately our feelings for each other have been getting stronger and are becoming even harder to ignore.
My boyfriend doesn't deserve to get dumped for another guy, and nor do I want to - I can't imagine him not being a part of my life, but at the same time, I can't help but wonder what things would be like if I were dating my friend. If it would be better, if I could be closer with someone. I can't make up my mind. Any helpful advice?
how can i locate a reasonable hotel in oxford OX1 1ST United Kingdom
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09/09/2010 : hi friends, Please can any one assist me with basic information of any hotel (between 45 to 25 pounds per nite) close to 59 St Aldates Oxford, OX1 1ST United Kingdom. thanks
I lied to him. how to gain his faith again?
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09/09/2010 : i broke up wid my ex in feb 09. later in july i ws into a new n very beautiful relationship wid this guy namely rohan, both of us luv each other very much. i was very happy wid my new thing as i wsnt involved dat much wid my ex. but under circumstances i had sex wid him and that too thrice. i cudnt tell this to rohan in the beginning as i nevr wantd to lose him and this made me to lie to him in this context evrytym. its been more than an year and i always feel the guilt. last night i told him the truth.
he s sayin that i ve tricked him but he s ready to marry me. but i kno that he vl marry me out of pity n i dont want this. m clueless wat to do. he s been very honest to me till date and i broke him. i acnt gain his faith back. please help. i love him. and i cant live without him. please help.
How to make appropriate use of have,had,has,will,would etc in forming a sentence.
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10/09/2010 : hi friends, i intend to master the use of english language very well(both oral and written). However, due to my level of education and environmental upbringing this aspiration seems to be very difficult more especially when it comes verbal communication. please can any one help me with an instruction or BASIC RULES on how to use and where appropriate the terms: has,had,have, will,would etc God bless u as u help!!
I was turned on after being punished by my mom. NOw I'm freaked out by my feelings!
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12/09/2010 : I'm embarassed and ashamed but I felt aroused after being smacked by my mum. I got in some trouble at school after being caught lying about why I'd been hadn't been there. The deputy head gave me a note to take home to my folks. I knew I was gonna be in big trouble because I'd been warned about what might happen. So I wasn't that suprised when after my mum read the note she strapped my bottom with a belt. Obviously getting smacked hurt but afterwards my bottom feeling warm and tingly for a couple of hours - to the point where I felt sexually aroused and started fantasizing about what had happened.
Not about my mom of course, just about getting my bottom smacked with a belt. Now I feel dirty and ashamed. I'm 14 and haven't had sex before but know what it feels like to be turned on, and I was definitely turned on. I'm not really sure what to do about it or who to talk to. I obviously can't talk to my mum. And my friends would be weirded out by it I think, it's too embarassing anyway. I'm really confused about my feelings and I don't know who to turn to.
What do you do when your boyfriend's parents force him to choose between you and them?
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15/09/2010 : I and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months now and I still can't get over how I managed to find the perfect guy. I've never been happier in my life until his parents went in: they found out he is gay and are now brainwashing him about how it may be just his imagination, how he may have gotten prejudiced against the opposite sex, he may grow out of it, etc. - the oh-f*ck-my-kid-is-homo kind of reaction. Now, my bf's bond with his parents is so strong as to lead him to actually consider all this waffle! Yesterday we talked on the phone and I was seriosuly hurt when I heard "he's not sure he wants it" or that he indeed considers setting up a life with a woman for convenience!! However, later that day he told me he was sorry, and I noticed some concern for my feelings as well, hence I decided to swallow my pride on the issue.
But our relationship is still on rocks: I fear (and have good reasons for it) that they might try to make him do something in spite of himself, something harmful, like betraying me with a girl (which would be a blow just too hard to take) or that the pressure he's under may evoke suicidal thoughts in him. The worst thing is, we live well over 300 km away from each other, so I have rather a poor chance to intervene...
How do I know if I am in love? What is love?
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16/09/2010 : I have been with my boyfriend now for a year and 9 months. We have been engaged for 10 months and plan to get married July 2011. Lately I have been asked by family members if I am happy. And the answer is I do not know. My fiance is really terrific, he is what I imagined as the perfect guy. He is so in love with me and would do anything for me. He is always kind and understanding we do everything together and we can talk about anything. The only complaint I have about him is that he is not the most fun/funny/exciting person.
Also he is very sensitive and not the manliest of men. I am afraid I am just comfortable now and I don't know if I am really in love with him, or if I just love having a companion. (someone to always talk to and do things with). When we are apart (i left for a month and he left for 3 weeks at different time periods -work related-) I do not know if I miss HIM or just miss having someone always there. I moved very far away to live him 8 months after meeting him. I left my entire family and the friends I have had since elementary school and I so desperately miss them.
I have made no friends since moving here to be with him so it is always just us.... Should I even be thinking this hard about the relationship? Should I just be happy and lucky that I found such a good guy? Everyone makes it seems that I should know for sure that I am always happy and in love everyday all the time, but sometimes it's just ok, just normal. I am also not turned on by him anymore, I have no desire to have sex.
what shall i do if i asked out a girl and my friend messed it all up?
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20/09/2010 : -i fancyed this girl, she is really pretty :0 my friend went out with her and they broke up a while ago, i wanted to ask her out but he ( being very jelious and on crack) mucked it up making fun of my situation and cyber bullying me. it was terrible. i have been left very upset and sadly confesssing to the greatest person in the world - bronwyn cody. an amazung frind of mine
I'm scared
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21/09/2010 : Hi. I did not know what section to put this under, but I'm 18, so I guess teenage is the best place. I am in the middle of fresher's week at university and I don't know anyone and don't know how to start talking to anyone. Is anybody going through the same thing out there. If htey are then me a line and maybe we can help each other out.
My boyfriend ended things with me, yet his reasons don't make sense.
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23/09/2010 : Me and my boyfriend had been together only about two months offically and about 4 if you include just 'seeing eachother' things had been going so well, he kept telling me he loved me, and how happy he was. Hes a really nice guy, he came into my group of friends through people, and he gets on with everyone. He seemed almost perfect and things were going the best possible, but i had my worries. He is really good looking, and appeals to alot of girls my age, i noticed this just through things like facebook, and also when we'd be out together, he'd attract so much attention from girls.
This worried me as i always thought people would be thinking why's he with her? I have quite a low self esteem for a teeager, and i don't feel that much confidence, but i tend not to show my worries about my self to people if possible. I am a paranoid person and a constant worrier (hence why i was worrying about losing him right from the start) I told my friend he'd end up dumping me and that i wasn't good enough, and i eventually told him. He said to me i dont care what other girls say to me or whether they like me, i love you and thats why im with you.
He told me to stop worrying and that he wouldnt hurt me. However two days later he was acting wierd with me over msn chat. I knew something was up and i was completely dreading it, i knew what was coming. He said to me he wants to end it because he feels he will hurt me and he needs some time out. I told him to stop making excuses because the least he could do was tell me the truth, and he said he wasn't. I said he just doesn't like me anymore, and i just want to hear him say it, but he still wouldn't he said he does care abou me alot, but he can't be with me.
I finally forced more truth out, as he said he feels i never want to spend time with him. I have reasons at home as to why i'm limited for not being able to go to his all the time, and he knows about them, all the details and everything, so i have a valid excuse. I still spend weekends with him and evenings in the week too. So i don't understand that. I said to him that when you end it with someone you say the last harshest thing to make them feel better, you almost make it look like your own fault (i know because i have been a coward and done this myself) instead of just telling them you no longer like them.
He said this wasnt the case but he didnt want to argue with me. I almost lost alot over this relationship i lost my bestfriend (male) who i found out has like me for years, but i dont feel the same. He was so upset, and we barely talk anymore, and other friends have take his side. So with loosing all that, and now my self confidence has offically hit rock bottom, because i was right all along, i never was good enough, he didn't like me?
Please does anyone know how I can get very cheap housing accommodation in Cambridge?
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24/09/2010 : I am an international student of Anglia Ruskin. You know how high all the costs of being a foreign student in the UK can be so I'm in serious need of an off-campus(but very close to campus) living space. This will enable me save some cost and get to know the beautiful historic city of Cambridge. Please, someone help me real quickly with this.
Should I try dating guys?
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25/09/2010 : I'm 17 and really confused. Since I was 14, I've had an attraction to other girls. And since 15, I've lost my attraction to guys. I don't want to date girls yet because I'm scared of this being just a phase, and of coming out in general (I don't know what people at school and church or my parents would say). I'm going to change a lot since I'm still young so it's very possible I'm straight, right? Should I just wait and see if I find any guys I'm attracted too, or should I try dating guys to see if that would reverse these feelings?
Am I still in love or am I just use to this person
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27/09/2010 : Dear friend I am really confused ive been married for 6months now but we have been together for 2 years at first things were great but then after havimg our son things changed he has become a stranger we never talk unless about our son he never tells me he loves me anymore and recently said he wasnt inlove with me that thats only at the begining recently we had a huge argument he got physical but lately I feel nothing for him I dnt want to be around him im not sexually attracted to him anymore I feel like I hate him i feel like im lonely and I dnt feel like myself amymore I use to be a happy person not anymore I feel traped I dnt know what to do I use to want things to work not anymore please help
Need Bed @ Breakfast within or close to Cardiff University for 30 September 2010 to 1 October 2010, within price range of BP 40 to 70.
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28/09/2010 : I am visiting Cardiff University briefly and want to identify a reasonable accomodation within easy reach to the university.