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Workplace bullying or not?
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01/09/2010 : 11:16:20 : The culture and boss at my work are extremely, extremely difficult to suss out, so I'm not sure if I am bullied — but I know I am very depressed when I am there! Does any of the following mean I am bullied at work? 1) Better work given to other team members, while I'm given mindless busy work. When I brought this up on a one-on-one meeting, I was told it was because I am relatively new (I was already working in the company for about 3 months) 2) Information are given to me on a 'need to know' basis and/or unclear.
I feel like I was being made to feel like a moron for asking questions, or taking a while to complete the tasks. 3) Stand-offish and aloof demeanour from colleagues. When I raised this with my boss, I was told that it's all in my head. It's made me feel as though my input/opinions do not matter. 4) Sarcastic comments from the boss which are really hard to address in a professional manner. Mainly because it's the boss and everyone are too afraid to rock the boat. If there are basis here on bullying, any advice on how to handle it?
how to have fun without the internet, computer, mobile or tv?
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29/08/2010 : 11:40:06 : its summer and i am really bored. theres not much to do at my house. i don't get money from my parents that often. all my friends live in different areas that i do and i lost my travel card and have to wait two weeks till i can one. even after i clean the house and help out my parents i still have loads of time left. i spend tons of hours watching tv and on the internet. when i'm not on that i am on the phone. i am a shy person so i don't feel comfortable being around people too much. do you know any fun things that would occupy my days? i am getting kind of sick of watching tv or being on the computer all day.
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
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29/08/2010 : 00:02:28 : It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit of a handful on their own and they sometimes fight but I’ve never heard of anything too bad. Anyway, yesterday we were having a chat and a coffee in her kitchen and there was some screaming coming from the garden.
Obviously we both jumped straight up and we could see the both the girls coming through the back gate, each of them had hold of the other’s hair. I was quite surprised to see them fighting like this but even more surprising was my friend’s response. She grabbed a small wooden paddle out of the kitchen door, steamed over to them, separated them both and said “I told you two what would happen”, told them to grab their knees and walloped their bottoms ...HARD. I was gobsmacked, dumbfounded – I just couldn’t believe what I was seeing! I’m not used to being around violence it was a bit frightening to be honest.
This was not like just a couple of whacks each, I mean she gave them a damn good hidding – those girls are not going to sit comfortable for a week. There's no way I would paddle a 13 yr old like that, 11 year old maybe but at 13, its too much. When she’d finished walloping them and sent them upstairs crying, I was so embarrassed I just made some excuse and quickly left. Maybe it’s nothing, but I can’t stop thinking about those poor girls and whether I should phone children’s services.
It’s only out of loyalty to my friend that I haven’t yet. She phoned earlier but I let it go to answer machine as I’m too embarrassed. I might try and talk to her but I don’t know what to say? she's a few years older than me and I don’t have children, so she might think I’m interfering in something I don’t understand. Sorry about the essay, I don’t know, maybe it’s nothing and I should forget it happened but it's eating me up wondering what to do.
painfull intercourse
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26/08/2010 : 15:29:52 : I have a huge member which causes discomfort to my girlfriend when we are being intimate. Advice me pleaes
im having problems of work which has left me off work with stress and depression, my this information has left my work throught member of staff and now my friends and family know.... is this legal??
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25/08/2010 : 17:59:41 : well most is explained above
whare can i go cos im homeless and no money?
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19/08/2010 : 19:17:47 : whare can i go cos im homeless and no money?
How to know if it's really over?
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17/08/2010 : 19:29:18 : I wrote a long long text describing my situation, until I realized the question in itself was quite simple: How do you know if it's really over? How do you know if you still love someone, or if you're with them simply because you're used to it? I've been with my guy for 10 years now. A house, no kids. I'm 31. And I'm coming out of a burn-out that lasted 2 years (still on the depression meds). And I'm wondering if we've grown apart, or if it's just a temporary thing... Any insights are appreciated!!
Are people jealous of me?
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16/08/2010 : 00:03:33 : Im an 18 year old girl who has just finished her first year of college. Im writing to you with problem ive seemed to experience my entire life no matter how i act around others. Im not a vain person, im quiet, shy and modest, and when i speak around others i always try to be polite and well mannered, however with some people (girls) i find that they just do not take to me and dislike me. Yesterday i took part in a couple of extra curricular classes, and i found that a couple of the girls were behaving quite oddly around me, looking me up and down, and snickering whenever i contributed as well as not responding to me whenever i tried to make conversation, as if to isolate me from the group and make me bad about myself.
Thing is ive had this problem with a lot of people, its always the same behaviour (looking me up and down, cutting me off or giving me weird looks when i speak as if my opinion means nothing) and whenever i ask my peers why this is, they always come up with the same answer people are jealous of you. I dont know whether to accept this as a fact, people have told me i am pretty, but i dont really consider myself to be good looking or have an amazing personality, im not someone to be jealous of! Anyway this has been happening for a long time with various different people, what am i doing wrong and how can i prevent this? Ive tried not to let this problem get to me, but its difficult when the same thng occurs with people in different social situations, and i do tend to lose confidence when im in groups.
I need some advice and another point of view! Thanks :)
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