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Should I break up with my girlfriend?
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05/02/2013 : 23:04:39 : We've been together for just over a year now, and things just dont seem to be how they used to be. We used to talk constantly about anything and everything, now we have awkward silences and keep secrets from each other. everything I do seems to be the wrong thing and then leeds to arguements and fallouts, our physical relationship seems to be dying almost dead now, so we mainly hold hands now and rarely kiss. I have been considering weather or not to end it for a while now as I'm not sure if it's for the better.
I still care for her and would do anything for her. but is it to late to save it?
I like(love) this guy, but how will I know if he likes me the way I like him?
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24/01/2013 : 16:50:19 : Well I usually dont act very nice to him but he is nice to me. Since I met him he has benn so charming. When he saw my friend, he fell inlove with her but now I think he likes me.
What should we do?
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20/01/2013 : 18:45:46 : My mother in law passed away recently leaving the family house and contents to my husband and his sibling. The house has been in the family for decades, and is miles away from where we live,my husband's sibling lives near to the family home. The house is in dire need of updating, they relied on coal to heat the home and storage heaters. We don't have the money to update the house or to buy my husbands sibling out or vice versa , to be honest i don't want to move there as i cant drive, i don't know anyone in the village and it means tearing my family apart as my youngest son is 15 and in his final year at school, he's blatantly said he'd rather live with his dad than move away.
And it also means me giving up my job which i also cannot afford to do. When we went through to check on the house recently my oh said thats the school **** would go to ! Well, i don't think he's heard me when i said i don't think i could uproot and leave my job,or leave my son with his father and leave myself practically destitute whilst he goes off to work leaving me in a house that i feel weird walking into, i still feel like its my mother in laws and really don't feel comfortable there at all now she's gone.
My oh says there isn't any rush to make our minds up yet, i think he's hoping i will warm to moving in there with him. What do we/i do? I can't sleep well at all over it, i love him and i don't want it to come in between us. Any advice would helpful.
How do i make my ex-friend i just came into contact as my love? cause i really love her...
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14/01/2013 : 17:09:41 : I am a boy.she was my childhood friend.Now after nearly 6 years we just came into contact.We have started texting each other.our parents are friends too.I love her sooo much .The texting we do seems to have not much improvement on our relationship . I just don't know how to take this to the next level.I need some very good tips for helping me to make her love me.
What do I do. I love my wife but i'm in love with one of her best friends for a long time.
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11/01/2013 : 12:25:29 : I'm married 7 years with 2 Children who I love dearly. But I am also in love with another woman. I have known this woman since childhood. She is married and has 1 child. She is one of my wife's best friends and her husband is my best friend. I just can't stop thinking about her. I have fancied her even during our school years. I don't know what to do. Things could get very very messy. Should I spill the beans and tell her & see how she feels.
How do I cope with all the rumors going around about me?
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02/01/2013 : 15:47:00 : Recently I got very drunk at a party an got arrested for being drunk and disorderly if that's not bad enough there are a few nasty rumors going around about me which arnt true. I know everyone at school will find out but I really don't want them to, I'm so ashamed of myself. I'm scared to go back to school as people will say something and I'm scared I'm going to loose my friends over this incident. I really want to move on but I'm worried no one else will let me please help
I wonder if my classmate likes me or not?
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19/12/2012 : 23:32:46 : I am a new student at my college. After the first few weeks of term, I noticed that one of my classmates seems to look at me frequently. Also, he moved the seat in the classroom to sit directly opposite to me(facing me). At first, I did not think anything. I just thought that it it might be other reason pushing him to change the seat rather than wanting to sit opposite to me. However, I noticed that he glanced at me and sometimes when I caught his eyes, he stared into my eyes. Once, I spoke in front of the class the same topic he got( it's a little presentation)After that, our teacher complimented both him and me, emphasizing that we both did very well.
He and I were smile widely at each other and he blushed obviously. We both have common lessons that it is impossible for me not to see him at least in one class a day. Actually, at the beginning of the term, I shared only one common subject with him but recently(one month ago), I moved into his class. After that, I felt the sign has become more strong. In my new class, he always tries to speak loudly and acts a bit annoying-saying some jokes,etc.( he is always quiet in another class which I share with himI guess it's because of the strictness of the teacher-no one dares to act or speak anything silly or funny in that class) Then the teacher tells him that he needs to separate from his friend and move to sit next to me if he doesn't stop talking.
His reaction is nothing bad-he smiles when the teacher says that and even doesn't reject anything but finally, he doesn't move to sit next to me. Last week, he seemed to attract some attention in our class a lot. He sat next to the other girl(they also have common lessons and seems to be close and intimate..) This girl is quite a quarrelsome but funny and cute. He complained and told the teachet that this girl distracted him from concentrating on the lesson. The teacher then said to the girl if she wanted to sit next to me but she didn't say anything.
It's he who said "Actually, it's me who wanna sit there" instead!! He's like a bit mumble to himself rather than talking to the class but his friends and I could hear(hopefully I haven't heard that wrong haha). After that, all along the lessonthe whole lesson!- his friends and hime tried to get an attention from the teacher to send him sit next to me. The next day, we had a little game in the class. He came to talk to me about the game. That was the first time he talk to me. The last day of school before Christmas holidays, lots of our classmates flew back to their home countries.
Hence, there were only him, his two friends, me ,my two friends and the teacher in the class. He said that we (my two friends and me) should move and sit next to him and his two friends because everyone else had gone back home so there's no one sitting in the middle of the classroom- we sat too far from each other. However, my friends and I did nothing and just sat in the same position. After this lesson, I felt really curious about his actions. I thought about his past manners and I realised that I met him more often during the day-when changing the classrooms, walking on the street, or even in the school common room.
Once, I got into the common room and I noticed someone looking at me. It's him among his friends. Then I just ignored and went into the library. He then walk after me, leaving his friends there in the common room, and went to his lesson. After thinking about every situations, I thought I wanna talk to him because I believe this way would help me find out if he likes me or not. Eventually, it was like a coincidence. I met him again on the street during changing period. I saw him walking after me at a distant but just few minutes, he stood close to me when I was about to cross the road.
I then decided to say hi but he just said hey back to me and that's it. He looked a bit shocked, surprised, nervous ( I don't know how to explainlike a mix expressions but definitely he was not smile to me 😔) Then, he walked away really extremely fast and went to the next lesson. I was so down at that time. It's like he completely ignored me. I just couldn't understand why he did like this. Is seems to me that one day he tries to be friend with me but the other day, it turns the other way round.
I had a feeling of hating him at that time. I felt a bit sad because after I thought he's into me, I'm also a bit into him too. Another thing I notice is that we always act like a mirror to each other. Once, I wore glasses to the school. In the lesson, he complained that he couldn't see the documents teacher showed us. His friend teased him why doesn't he put his glasses on. Then he wore his glasses. The other thing is that when I feel sleepy,active, or I smile or laugh, I notice that he looks the same-everytime.
When I am a bit gloomy, he is tooturning to be quiet and motionless immediately after I have the depressed emotion even though a minute ago, he still laugh. I don't know if these are all my misunderstandings or not. He may actually doesn't like me at all. Moreover, he's English and seems to be a bit hot-he's kinda play important role in school activities and I'm Asian with fairly pale skinno make upplain facenot attractive at all😔. I reconsider and I think that he must like English girl rather than me but with his actions, I just don't get it.
I nerver think I'm going to be into him but after these things happen, I admit that I notice him more and a bit interested in him. Does he have any feelings for me or he just do it for fun? Or he may like the girl who sit next to him in the class he seems to talk to her a lot and be in the same gang. I feel like a fool thinking like thisif he actually doesn't care anything at all. PS. I'm really sorry writing too long.... but I just wanna make clear points so that everyone could analyse the circumstances better.
Also, thank you for being patient and read my feelings till the end.
I gave into my Tiger Mom. How do I salvage my relationship?
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11/12/2012 : 19:10:20 : Hi. I hope what I am about to write makes sense. Here goes... I'm 27 years old, I got engaged 2 years ago, but we haven't married yet for 2 reasons. First, my mother has been strongly opposed to marriage until after I have joined the career she always envisioned for me. I know the usual arguments about free will and parents not having the right to dictate etc. Yet, I have given in, and I have put my marriage on hold until I clear the exam to pursue this career. Why did I give in? Partly because she threatened to disown me - despite loving my fiancé very much, I couldn't stand to lose my mother and start my marriage on such an ominous note.
I say partly, which brings me to the second reason why I delayed my wedding. I was sickened by my mom's attitude but I myself realized that I wanted to pursue the career she wanted me to have. In order to be able to do so, I am currently studying 12 hours every day, 7 days a week, living with my mom. I felt, and feel, that I need a distraction free environment and being newly married with my husband besides me would not work. Obviously, my fiancé is upset. I'm at a point today where I don't think I'm capable of doing right by anyone.
I've wronged my fiancé by placing him so low in the order of priorities. I'm wronging my mom by taking full advantage of her while I prepare, despite holding a deep grudge against her behaviour these past two years. The person I am most angry with is myself. I feel like a coward who balked and chose the mama's baby path at a ripe age of 25. I'm continually haunted by the question - what should I have done?! I've made a decision to study for this exam (btw - it's actually a series of exam that will take another 1-2 years to complete) and so ill go through with it.
But is there anything I can do to salvage my relationship? My fiancé and I are otherwise very happy together.
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