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Workplace bullying or not?
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The culture and boss at my work are extremely, extremely difficult to suss out, so I'm not sure if I am bullied — but I know I am very depressed when I am there! Does any of the following mean I am bullied at work? 1) Better work given to other team members, while I'm given mindless busy work. When I brought this up on a one-on-one meeting, I was told it was because I am relatively new (I was already working in the company for about 3 months) 2) Information are given to me on a 'need to know' basis and/or unclear.

I feel like I was being made to feel like a moron for asking questions, or taking a while to complete the tasks. 3) Stand-offish and aloof demeanour from colleagues. When I raised this with my boss, I was told that it's all in my head. It's made me feel as though my input/opinions do not matter. 4) Sarcastic comments from the boss which are really hard to address in a professional manner. Mainly because it's the boss and everyone are too afraid to rock the boat. If there are basis here on bullying, any advice on how to handle it?

Anonymous replies: It's herd to tell whether your employers have a case to answer. A lot of wht you say is based in your perception and would be very hard to evidence. I think you should go to one of these no win no fee people and lay out your case and see what they say. The face is that you are not happy there. Perhaps you shuold find another job. I've been in situations like this and it is hard to get people to change.

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how to have fun without the internet, computer, mobile or tv?
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its summer and i am really bored. theres not much to do at my house. i don't get money from my parents that often. all my friends live in different areas that i do and i lost my travel card and have to wait two weeks till i can one. even after i clean the house and help out my parents i still have loads of time left. i spend tons of hours watching tv and on the internet. when i'm not on that i am on the phone. i am a shy person so i don't feel comfortable being around people too much. do you know any fun things that would occupy my days? i am getting kind of sick of watching tv or being on the computer all day.

Anonymous replies: Seems like you've got all the toys and are still bored. Have you tried reading a book?

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I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
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It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit of a handful on their own and they sometimes fight but I’ve never heard of anything too bad. Anyway, yesterday we were having a chat and a coffee in her kitchen and there was some screaming coming from the garden.

Obviously we both jumped straight up and we could see the both the girls coming through the back gate, each of them had hold of the other’s hair. I was quite surprised to see them fighting like this but even more surprising was my friend’s response. She grabbed a small wooden paddle out of the kitchen door, steamed over to them, separated them both and said “I told you two what would happen”, told them to grab their knees and walloped their bottoms ...HARD. I was gobsmacked, dumbfounded – I just couldn’t believe what I was seeing! I’m not used to being around violence it was a bit frightening to be honest.

This was not like just a couple of whacks each, I mean she gave them a damn good hidding – those girls are not going to sit comfortable for a week. There's no way I would paddle a 13 yr old like that, 11 year old maybe but at 13, its too much. When she’d finished walloping them and sent them upstairs crying, I was so embarrassed I just made some excuse and quickly left. Maybe it’s nothing, but I can’t stop thinking about those poor girls and whether I should phone children’s services.

It’s only out of loyalty to my friend that I haven’t yet. She phoned earlier but I let it go to answer machine as I’m too embarrassed. I might try and talk to her but I don’t know what to say? she's a few years older than me and I don’t have children, so she might think I’m interfering in something I don’t understand. Sorry about the essay, I don’t know, maybe it’s nothing and I should forget it happened but it's eating me up wondering what to do.

Anonymous replies: Hello. You have a bit of a problem here in that oyur friend is not going to take kindly to what I am going to advise you to do. I am writing from a UK perspective where this is illegal. You have witnessed child abuse and you have to report it. There ia not an age where it is right to hit a child as violently as this. In my view the situation is made worse because they are girls. I think the best thing to do is talk to your friend, tell hee that she should go to parenting classes and that if she does not then you are going to the authorities. I know this will be hard, she will not want to listen to you because you have no children, but what you saw was a violent crime and should be treated as such. I guess you will lose her as a friend, but these girls need protecting.

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painfull intercourse
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I have a huge member which causes discomfort to my girlfriend when we are being intimate. Advice me pleaes

Anonymous replies: Your girlfriend is very lucky. If she can't take it I suggest you go and find someone who can.

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im having problems of work which has left me off work with stress and depression, my this information has left my work throught member of staff and now my friends and family know.... is this legal??
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well most is explained above

Robferri replies: Well through members of staff yes they have told without my concent, i am over 18. Should i seek legal advice??? Thanks for the quick reply. Rob

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Anonymous replies: Helloo. Do you mean that your work have told your family that your are sick and off work? If they have unless your are under 18 then this is definitely illegal. Go to a tribunal and get them to write you a letter.

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whare can i go cos im homeless and no money?
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whare can i go cos im homeless and no money?

Anonymous replies: Hello. You have to give us more information. Like where you are, otherwise it& s impossible to advise you.

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How to know if it's really over?
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I wrote a long long text describing my situation, until I realized the question in itself was quite simple: How do you know if it's really over? How do you know if you still love someone, or if you're with them simply because you're used to it? I've been with my guy for 10 years now. A house, no kids. I'm 31. And I'm coming out of a burn-out that lasted 2 years (still on the depression meds). And I'm wondering if we've grown apart, or if it's just a temporary thing... Any insights are appreciated!!

Anonymous replies: Hello. I think you should take some time apart from your partner. If you had children I would suggest that you tried to work it out. I think you know this, I think you know that it is already over. Move on and enjoy yourself, just be sure not to immediately hook up with someone else, if your going to do that then you may as well stay with your partner.

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