Question Detail: Should I get a divorce after only a month or marriage?

Should I get a divorce after only a month or marriage?

My husband and I just recently got married in October, but even before the wedding I was getting VERY cold feet. I began to hang out more with my friends and not care about planning or the details of my day. I had met my new sister in law's brother that lives down the street and we have been hanging out in secret about 3 times a week while my husband is at work. Before the wedding, I was questioning big issues, like the fact that he cheated on me twice with my best friend. His family is rude and has never really truly liked me, and that maybe I wasn't ready for such a big step in my life.

I have been with my husband since high school and we just hit our 6th year. I'm worried that we only got married because it was the next logical thing to do. Ever since we got our own place we have played house, but I'm in school and am concerned that maybe I'm still too immature to be a wife. I love him very much and don't want to hurt him, but I'm not sure if I'm still "IN" love with him. The guy up the street also has expressed his feelings for me and I feel them back strongly.

I would love to be with him too. We share common interests (unlike me and my husband) and have been through similar life situations concerning trust. He does little romantic things when we hang out and I can't get him out of my head. We also kissed a few months before the wedding. He's not selfish at all. I asked him if I should get married before the wedding and he told me yes, because he just wants me happy, but I sense strong feelings between us. Was my cold feet a way to tell me to stop? Or am I just in puppy love and need to snap out of something that might never happen?

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Anonymous replies: Hi. You don& t say how old you are but I& m guessing you& re about 20? Some people are mature enough to get married at that age but I don& t think you are one of them. That said you are married now and you should at least try to make it work. This is not like dating someone, yoiu have to try and make it work. If you are successful then the rewards are immense. The & guy down the street& sounds like he could be anybody. Stick with your marriege for the time being and give it a chance to work out.

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