Question Detail: What do I do about my Childish ex-partner?

What do I do about my Childish ex-partner?

OK, long story. I've been with my now ex-girlfriend 9 years. We have 2 beautiful children together. In that time she's cheated on me with 3 different men, I cheated on her with one woman (a long time ago). The latest infidelity is the one that broke us up, she'd been with another man for a YEAR, and then came home one day and told me and said that it was over. That was in November last year. Since then we continued to live together, which was not a healthy situation. In January, she started a new relationship with a man ten years older than me, and already she is pregnant with his baby.

In February, I met a wonderful woman who has completely blown me away, she's everything the ex wasn't, and amazingly good to me. So things seemed to be on the up. Then I ruined it all by getting arrested and bailed and not allowed to go home, or see my children. Not clever, I know. So I spent a week on a friend's couch before finding my own flat, and now life is a million times better. Except for one thing. I can't even SPEAK to my children. I rang to speak to them and my ex told me that Social Services said I shouldn't have any contact whatsoever.

I took her word for it. On a friend's advice, I decided to call SS myself and check it out. They confirmed they had said NO SUCH THING. So I rang again and asked to speak to my daughter, the ex said no. I told her I knew she was lying, she said she wasn't. I checked again with Social Services, and they confirmed AGAIN that they hadn't said any such thing. I answer bail next week, so hopefully will only get a caution and be able to go back to the house (Technically I'm still a tenant there), but just don't know how to deal with someone so childish anymore.

Can anyone advise how best to deal with this? Really don't want to drag the kids through court, but unless someone has a suggestion, it might be exactly what I'll have to do.

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Anonymous replies: You need to have a meeting with a professional mediator, don& t listen to lay advice.

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