Am I just being jealous or is she in the wrong?

Sun, 22 Jan 2012 06:49:00 EST

I am a freshman in college in my second semester. Last semester I met a girl who I quickly became best friends with. We had just enough common interests and differences that it kept our friendship great. We became very close in those few months and know just about everything about eachother. She has many other friends but she mainly only hangs out with me. One of the other friends is a girl in our dorm. My friend is a lesbian and developed feelings for her. The other girl knew she was lesbian but kept doing things like holding her hand during movies or kissing her on the cheek. My friend thought she was interested in her, but she was already kind of seeing a guy already. The only times she would make passes at my friend would be when her and her boyfriend were fighting. My friend is obviously being used as a rebound, and she knows it. I have spent many nights with her as she cried over this girl, but she keeps going back to her and trying to be friends, or more. The same thing keeps happening no matter how bad it gets. The girl even told her one time she liked her, and invited her to get a shower with her, but said it would never happen because she has her boyfriend. She was crushed, but of course that didn't stop her from trying still. Recently, my friend and her roommate got into a big arguement, and now my friend is moving out. She is planning on moving in with this terrible girl who is just using her for revenge. Since being with her, she has barely hung out with me or done anything with me. We used to go eat lunch and dinner together every day, but now when I ask her to eat she either says no, or that she is eating with her friend. I feel like she is abandoning me for this girl who has hurt her countless times. So, am I just being jealous and selfish, or is it her who is in the wrong?Message by Anonymous on Sun, 22 Jan 2012 06:49:00 EST
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We broke up but i still have feelings for him, what do i do?

Thu, 19 Jan 2012 11:33:00 EST

I am 16 and have recently broke up with a 19yr old. We went out for a year, but I broke his trust and eventually the relationship crumbled. We tried to be friends but then on night we had sex. He then said we couldn't do this anymore so we didn't speak for awhile. But now we are speaking again. I keep calling him, my Romeo then he admitted to me that he secretly called me Juliet. He gave me a necklace, and says I own his heart but he says we can't get back together because he doesn't trust me? But a lot of the time, we argue about things I've done in the past and he can't seem to get other it. Should I walk away...I'm so confusedMessage by 1Aaliayh1 on Thu, 19 Jan 2012 11:33:00 EST
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I saw my friend getting a spanking and now I'm having fantasies about being spanked ... wtf is going on??

Wed, 18 Jan 2012 10:09:00 EST

She's a bit younger than me but we're good friends and we're always in each others houses. Anyway, a few days ago I went round hers and as usual I just went round the back. I tend to go straight in through the kitchen then straight upstairs to her room. However, when I opened the backdoor, I could see my friend in the lounge getting whacked across her bottom with a belt. I was shocked, I didn't say anything and just backed straight out and left. I haven't even brought it up with her since, even though she came over later on the same day But and it's a big but! ...as shocking as this may sound, it actually left me feeling a little turned on. Trouble is now I can't get it out of my mind and want to feel what it's like. Is this weird? I'm even tempted to do some things to really piss my parents off in the hope I get the same. It's silly really because I haven't been smacked for years. God, I hope this doesn't sound too weird any help would be appreciated.Message by Anonymous on Wed, 18 Jan 2012 10:09:00 EST
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Should I go out with someone that is named a Player, I love him?

Sun, 15 Jan 2012 09:02:00 EST

There is this guy in my school, he is really nice sweet plus vv good looking, someone said to me that he is a player but I cant stop thinking about him and I think i am in love. He asked me out and I said maybe, what should i do?Message by Anonymous on Sun, 15 Jan 2012 09:02:00 EST
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Confused. Am i prone to making mistakes?

Sat, 7 Jan 2012 06:00:00 EST

I just got done with a break-up some months back. My best-friend helped me with it. It was an emotionally disturbing relationship and it was sour for years. After i got out, i started making new friends and moving out often. I met this guy through a friend of mine and we clicked. Though i wasnt interested in a relationship he still pursued. Eventually i fell for him for the cute things he did. And we are dating now. Now I know that it wont work out for long-term and it will eventually breakup in a year or so. We belong to different religion and cultures. I do not even think there will be a slightest chance that we would end up together as my parents are pretty strict. My friend however disapproves of the whole thing and says i should just not go ahead further. He knows i will be hurt in the end. This is straining our friendship and i dont really want to lose him based on this. We [this guy and I] both did get in it thinking it will be for a short-term. However this is affecting me as i know i will eventually be attached to this guy and it will be very hard for me to let go later on. I enjoy my time with him and he keeps me a lot happy. He is everything that i hoped for and want for a partner. My ex didnt shower much love on me and i wasnt anywhere close to special to him. All the love that this guy has showered upon me makes me want to be with him. I dont want to mess up my friendship with my bestie. He thinks im being too cheap and easy and letting myself in for another disappointment. He is very caring and protective and i love him to the core. [Purely friends] I dont want to lose him. Im at this point where i either choose either of them. Not literally but being with the guy i like will eventually make my bestie distant towards me. I like the guy and even though im not thinking long term yet, i would wanna try and give it a chance. I dont know what to do. Please advice. Message by Anonymous on Sat, 7 Jan 2012 06:00:00 EST
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Is this grounds for a break-up?

Fri, 6 Jan 2012 04:38:00 EST

I love my boyfriend of nearly two years. We are each other's first 'real' relationship, and we've gone through a lot together. However, I've been questioning my motives to continue dating him in the past month or so. I feel as though our mental connection is not strong - perhaps it never was, but we glazed over that. Now, however, as I reach for my goals in life and he reaches for his, I can't believe how different we are. I am motivated intellectually, and him, with physical challenges. I don't feel as though he is 'the one', but I don't know if that's just because the butterflies are gone. If I'm not in it full heartedly, it doesn't seem fair to either of us. But I love him so much. Even with that in mind, I've been feeling depressed for weeks every time I see/talk to him because of my indecision. What should I do?Message by Anonymous on Fri, 6 Jan 2012 04:38:00 EST
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How to I cheer up my best friend?

Thu, 5 Jan 2012 09:39:00 EST

My best friend is a guy, and it's been almost a year since his fiancee of 5 years dumped him. He is a loving guy and it has hurt him that he is 30 and now single what he desires most in this world is a wife and kids. He has been on a few dates and is always on the look-out for a new GF. His desperation is evident and can be a little frustrating to be around I know if any potentials sense the desperation they will run a mile. I think he has been emotionally distancing himself from me over the last few weeks as he becomes glummer. My problem is how to help him through this rough patch being a BFF. I want him to know I care and he's not as alone as he thinks he is.Message by Anonymous on Thu, 5 Jan 2012 09:39:00 EST
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What should i do about him?

Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:07:00 EST

There's this boy in my year at school. I've fancied him for a while now but he has a girlfriend who is my best friend. I dont know him that well. My friend went to speak to him about it and he found out i liked him! Everyones talking about it now and i'm finding it hard. I still like him. He told one of my mates that he liked me and then to another one of them that he didnt. I'm scared to face him at school because i know it will be arkward and i still want to be friends. What should i do?Message by Anonymous on Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:07:00 EST
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Should I forgive my dad who clearly doesnt care about me?

Tue, 6 Dec 2011 09:02:00 EST

My mum and dad have been split up ever since i was really really young. I used to see him probably once every 2 months however last year we got really close to the point where i was seeing him every week, but then my sister and him had a stupid argument around june 2010 because he stopped seeing us quite so much but then he completely stopped speaking to us. In september he then stopped my child benefits and claimed that he wasnt working even though we knew that he was because of facebook. I text him at christmas but got no reply. He text me once around jan / feb but i said i couldnt forgive him quite yet but then he stopped speaking again. In november he contacted me through the internet simply saying "hi" then when i asked why he hadnt spoken to me for almost a year and a half he started having a go at me saying it was the second time he had tried to speak to me and the second time i had let him down. I cant bring myself to forgive him and although i hate him, i really do miss having a dad. My mum is really supportive and almost acts as my dad aswell but i can tell that if i was ever to forgive him it would hurt her because of the amount she has given up for me and the effort she has put in raising me by herself. Am i wrong to not forgive him? please help :(Message by Michaela on Tue, 6 Dec 2011 09:02:00 EST
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how do i stop thinking about him?

Thu, 1 Dec 2011 04:55:00 EST

i'm 16 and will be answering my board exams in a few months. recently i met this parent at school, who apperently is divorced....and he has a 9 yr old son. my friends tell me that he lusts me and i cant stop thinking about him...i think he knows how i feel about him but he's like twice my age... i cant concentrate on my studies...and i need serious help...pleaassssseeeee.... thank you...Message by Anonymous on Thu, 1 Dec 2011 04:55:00 EST
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